Fear of judgement A few years ago my father turned 60 and said:
- When I was 20 I was worried about what others would think of me
- When I turned 40 I stopped caring about what others would think of me
- Now I realize that nobody was ever thinking about me that much
- I can’t go back in time and explain to my teenage self (left picture) that nobody cares about those pimples; but I don’t have to wait until I’m 60 to realize that people are too busy with their own lives. They don’t have time to really think about me.
- Some ideas to battle our fear of judgment:
- you are your biggest critic - minimize that weight
- it’s impossible to be liked by everyone at all times
- we can’t control what people think
- switch the focus of your energy: from outside to inside
- move from vulnerability to capability
- reduce the judgements you make or radically stop judging others (best option)
- use LinkedIn as a fitness center to fight the insecurity about what you are going to say
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